• We Are Here To…

    Listen when you are ready to talk.

  • We Are Here To…

    Give you supportive information and answers.

  • We Are Here To…

    Assure you it was not your fault, you are not alone and you have choices.

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    Empower you to plan for the future.

  • Safety Planning

    There are several ways to keep you and your children safe in dangerous situations. Below are some key points to remember when you think that you might be in trouble.

    Safety Measures While In An Abusive Relationship

    If you are living with a person who is abusing you, here are some things you can do to increase your and your children’s safety:

    • Have important numbers memorized– friends and relatives you can call in an emergency. If your children are old enough, teach them important numbers, including when and how to dial 9-1-1(911 phones are available at the A & R Center).
    • Keep change for pay phones, a pre-paid calling card, or a charged cell phone with you at all times.
    • If you can, open your own bank account and have your statements mailed to a place your abuser will not discover.
    • Stay in touch with friends. Get to know your neighbors.
    • Rehearse your escape plan until you know it by heart.
    • Leave a set of car keys, extra money, a change of clothes, and copies of important documents in a safe place or at the A & R Center.

    Safety After You Have Left the Relationship

    • Change your locks.
    • Install as many security features as possible in your home.
    • Inform your neighbors that your former partner is not welcome on the premises.
    • Inform child care providers of who is allowed to pick up your children.
    • Obtain a protection order. Keep it near you at all times.
    • Inform your co-workers of the situation. Ask them to warn you if they observe that person around.
    • Avoid the stores, banks, and businesses you used when you lived with the abuser.
    • Get counseling. Go to support groups. Form a supportive network.

    Make copies and/or store the original of the following documents:

    • Birth certificates
    • Marriage license
    • Social security card(s)
    • Your child’s medical and school records
    • Bank books
    • Public assistance identification
    • Passports or green cards
    • Lease agreements or mortgage
    • Payment books
    • Insurance papers
    • Important addresses and phone numbers
    • Extra prescription medication
    • Any other important documents
    • Evidence of abuse (photos, journals, medical records, police reports)